Laura told her doctor she was having a miscarriage. He looked at her and said one word.
We're Kon-ick and Laura. We lost our pregnancy at six weeks, after two years of trying and an IVF round we never got to complete.
He didn't signpost us anywhere after that appointment. No leaflet, no number to call, nothing to take home. We walked out with less than we came in with.
We found it hard in different ways. Laura was trying to process what had happened to her body. Kon-ick didn't know what he was allowed to feel — he hadn't physically been through it, so he went quiet, tried to keep going, and didn't know how to bring any of it up. The apps were no help either. They either acted like nothing had happened or moved past it before we had. At 2am, with family still downstairs, Kon-ick went upstairs and ended up on Reddit reading other couples' stories, because there was nowhere else to go.
When we started talking to other people who'd been through it, we kept hearing the same things back. The system hadn't known what to do with them. The apps weren't built for both of them. Nobody was checking in on both people in the relationship. So we started building the thing that should already have existed.